You are intuitive and you can learn to listen to it.
Some people think of it as simple gut instinct – that ‘feeling’ in your stomach. Or maybe you ‘just know’ something isn’t right or is meant to be a certain way. A hunch. These are definite signals to pay attention to. But it might take a little practice to build up to solely relying on them. If you really pay attention, your body is giving you subtle clues all of the time.
Try this exercise:
Think of an activity you are about to undertake. Maybe it is whether or not to take your child to the doctor, whether you want to work in a particular way or not, or simply whether or not you want to meet a friend for lunch. Sit quietly for a minute and allow your body to relax. If you have the time, it’s even better if you can spend a few minutes in meditation. Now, ponder your decision: Should I stay or should I go?
Without thinking, simply become aware of what happens in your body when you consider your options. Note how your body feels when you think ‘stay’, then a few minutes later notice your body’s response to ‘go’. One response may feel better than another. Or perhaps both are neutral. Simply take note.
What does it mean?
For me, my body gives a positive response to a question by feeling relaxed, happy, warm and sometimes like it’s bursting open with energy (like tingles or burning skin). During client readings when I’m asked to look at two options for them, I will clairvoyantly see the two options side by side and one will be light and one will be dark. When this happens, I lean towards the one bathed in light. The dark is unclear, too heavy and most likely not the better option.
On the other hand, I typically feel a negative response as a tightening, change/quickening in breathing, fear, stressed, tensed muscles (for me, particularly around the neck and shoulders), or a heaviness in my chest. If these symptoms show up, then guess what? Yep, I rethink the decision or look a little more closely at it.
Feeling neutral obviously doesn’t give much physical indication either way. When I get a neutral response, I tend to not make a decision straight away, or check whether I need to reconsider/rephrase the question. Sometimes for me, feeling neutral can mean the decision is a small one, inconsequential, or perhaps just to wait a little longer for more information. It’s like an amber light – slow down and be cautious. Perhaps try again later.
- Practice makes perfect. Write it down so you can review your progress and what you learn. Sometimes hindsight is a great learning tool.
- Start small. Try out these techniques on smaller decisions, like whether or not you want to eat something, or go somewhere for lunch. Then work your way up to bigger decisions, like changing jobs or changing your child’s diet.
- Trust the signs, but don’t expect them to indicate a logical decision.
As that last point suggests, there is a distinction between your body’s response and your mind’s response. Your thoughts are not intuition, even though rational thinking is of course important. Your body may be open, ready and pointing you to change but your mind may still be fearful or negative. You need to have a clear mind and open heart for this to work.
For now, just get used to how you feel – this will tell you a great deal and with time and practice, it will make decision making in all areas of your life a hell of a lot easier, but not necessarily easy.
Have you ever noticed a physical reaction to certain people you meet (positive or negative)? Perhaps when making a big decision, you know your body reacts in certain ways. How do you listen to your body?